I used to be a to-do list kind of person. Like, I kept an ongoing to-do list in my planner at all times and derived great satisfaction from checking things off that list. But then, at some point, I started to notice that my to-do lists were becoming a little too demanding, and that they were starting to create a sort of inadvertent pressure in my life. It became less about doing the thing and more about checking the box.
In a moment of clarity, I realized that my to-do list wasn't so important anymore. I realized that the shit I wanted to pick up at the store would always be there waiting for me. The neverending things around the house, they’d all be there waiting, too.
Basically, I started to put a lot more trust in myself that things would happen when they were meant to happen, rather than pressuring myself to make it all happen on some self-imposed schedule.
I realize this may sound kind of willy-nilly for anyone who still loves their to-do lists. I realize that some of you may be breaking out in a cold sweat while you’re reading this, thinking about how to-do lists improve your life, how satisfying it feels to check off those fun little boxes, how you wouldn’t get anything done without them.
I’m not here to convert you to my way, nor am I here to tell you that your way is wrong. I’m just here to share my personal experiences with to-do lists, and write about how I've embraced un-doing. Take it or leave it.
As the Social Coordinator for my family - I use the term "social" loosely - I do like to keep a semi-detailed monthly calendar of important dates, appointments, ball games, work stuff, client bookings, etc. I’m a visual person and I like to see the whole month at-a-glance to be sure I’m keeping my days and weeks balanced.